Lucky Girl Syndrome is the concept of manifesting luck. Believing, and repeatedly telling the universe about how fortunate you are will lead you to eventually starting to be that fortunate. Quite literally manifesting the luck that comes into your life.
I truly believe that I am someone that has seen this syndrome work in real time.
The minute that I decided to start betting on myself, putting myself first and doing what was ultimately best for me. Everything else in life seemed to almost seamlessly fall in line.
At first it was small things. I would hit all of the green lights on my way to an appointment during rush hour, or I would be the only person at a popular trail head at sunrise. Once I started taking notice of the small what I like to call wins, bigger, more noticeable wins came my way.
I got a promotion at work, all of the housing that I was interested in staying at was available, I put myself out there and successfully made friends, and with ease at that!
Now, I will say, there were some times where I did not feel so lucky, like when my car was stolen. The more I think about it, life can’t always go my way.
Lame, I know.
Things happen, both good and bad. It is important to learn from, and appreciate both. This took a lot of real time practice and truly trusting in the process.
However, I don’t find it coincidental that once I started really living my most authentic life, I was rewarded.
Exponentially.
Whether it's God, manifestation, or the Lucky Girl Syndrome, there is something working in my favor.
There was a monumental shift within myself that I swear to you, I physically felt when I truly started believing that everything that was happening around me, and to me were purposeful. Again, even the not so glamorous.
When I think back to the young girl that had just graduated college, with the world at her fingertips, experiencing her first real heartbreak when medical school didn’t pan out. I wish I could hug her, tell her to give herself more grace and trust that even this misstep was a part of a plan bigger than she could even imagine.
That sometimes the life and future that you envision for yourself has to fall apart so that the life that you were meant to live can come together.
Even if it is in a roundabout kind of way.
My stepmom has been known to use the phrase “everything happens for a reason” often. I agreed along with everyone else in the room, but didn’t fully understand the impact of that statement until I was able to bear witness to it happening to me in real time.
The heartbreak was purposeful.
That doesn’t mean that I am necessarily thankful for the adverse situations that I have been faced with. I can be thankful that they have altered my life in a way that allowed for much more success and happiness than I even thought was possible.
Without experiencing heartbreak, I wouldn’t have found the courage to get back into therapy. Finally having the will and the want to be my best self for myself and the people in my life.
Pushing myself mentally and emotionally in a way that I never have before. Building up my self confidence, esteem and worth to the highest levels they have arguably ever been.
This required a level of accountability that I had never had to answer to before. But how lucky am I to have the ability to become a better version of myself?
There are times that I cannot wait to get into my session and work through an issue or honestly just vent to someone other than my best friend. Other times I literally dread logging into my Zoom call, those calls typically end up being the session that I needed the most.
The work was hard, and is still hard, the road is long but with profound change comes profound reward.
The heartbreak was purposeful.
All of that is to say that I really am so lucky, even when I feel that I am not.
Things are happening for me, rather than to me. Trying my best to look at the world and my experiences through the lens of the glass being half full, rather than empty.
Which if you know me, a recovering negative nelly, is hard.
My fear of time has also pushed me into changing the way that I view certain situations. I don’t want to spend any more of the time that I have focusing on the negative.
I have learned a lot of things in my lifetime. One of the greatest things that I have learned is that life is what you make of it and that you have the power to change anything, at any time.
You will get out of a situation what you put into it.
If you aren’t happy with someone, something or somewhere?
See it. Manifest it. Change it.
I dare you.
Once you muster up the courage to, sit back, and watch yourself become the next to witness the ripple effects of Lucky Girl Syndrome.